I’ve said before that Joshua and I started out this adoption journey with our hearts set on bringing home an infant. In fact Ethiopia is one place where you can still bring home a very young infant (sometimes under 4 months old). We purchased a crib, a few family members sent cute baby clothes, and we got really excited about joining our friends in this fun “baby stage” of life.
As we progressed in our paper-chasing we began reading more about adoption and about Ethiopia. Did you realize that children over 3 years old are often considered UN-adoptable, or dare I say, UN-wanted? Many feel they will come with too many problems, too many developmental delays, too much of a past, and no English skils. Even as we have shared about our referral, a common response has been, “Wow, you’re adopting a 6 year old and a 4 year old? That’s pretty old! You’ll sure have your hands full!” And then we get a look. I don’t think people mean to give us a look, or make us feel uncomfortable, I just think there is a common misunderstanding about adopting older children.
I really want to challenge those in the adoption process to consider the possibility of adopting an older child. And for those who aren’t adopting to pray about the possibility. Would God give you faith to provide a family to one of His precious children? James 1:27 reminds us: “Pure and lasting religion in the sight of God our Father means that we must care for orphans and widows in their troubles, and refuse to let the world corrupt us.” I’ve often found myself “corrupted” by a desire for ease and selfishness. Corrupted by doubt that says the money will never come, and how do we expect to ever live off of one income? Yes, it will be difficult. No these kiddos won’t speak much English. No they haven’t had any formal schooling. Yes, they have a sad past. But what the heck! I have a lot of sin and God still adopted me. And this simple and beautiful truth has stuck with us, has been ingrained in our minds, has broken our hearts. I pray it will do the same for you.
Take a second to check these blogs out, hopefully you’ll leave changed-
http://kidd-ethiopia-adoption.blogspot.com/ check out the post on June 27th about visiting their daughter’s orphanage
http://welovebigfamilies.blogspot.com check out the post on March 8, 2008 titled, “I don’t have a family”